Friday, May 25, 2007

Help Others....Help Yourself

One of the greatest secret of success is helping others to succeed. Your chances on success increase exponentially when you help other people attain success. Someone once made an observation that has become a signature on my emails. He said “when a man is wrapped up in himself, he makes a pretty small package – and that package contains an unhappy person” Think about it for a moment: Have you ever known a genuinely happy self centered person? I doubt.

I once read a story about a man who was hiking in the mountains. He was taken by surprise in a sudden snow storm and quickly lost his way. He knew he needed to find shelter fast, or he would freeze to death. Despite all of his efforts, his hands and feet quickly went numb. In his wandering, he literally tripped over another man who was almost frozen. The hiker had to make a decision: Should he help the man or should he continue in hopes of saving himself?

In an instant, he made a decision and threw off his wet gloves. He knelt beside the man and began massaging his arms and legs. After the hiker had worked a few minutes, the man began to respond and was soon able to get on his feet. Together the two men, supporting each other, found help. The hiker was later informed that by helping another, he had helped himself. His numbness vanished while he was massaging the stranger’s arms and legs. His heightened activity had enhanced his circulation and brought warmth to his hands and feet. Isn’t it ironic that when he lost sight of himself and focused on solving another’s problem he solved his own problem?

Hakeem Olajunwon is the all pro centre for the Houston Rockets, the world’s champion of the National Basketball Association in 1994 and 1995. The year before they won their first championship against the New York Knicks, Hakeem realized that because he was a team leader, his responsibility was more pronounced than anyone else’s. He recognized that he had a weakness in his game, which was the fifteen-foot jump shot. Think about it. He earned a multimillion dollar income and had been all pro for six consecutive years. However, he felt that the team would never win a championship until he improved his shooting from fifteen feet

Before the 1993-94 seasons, he went to the gym everyday and practiced five hundred fifteen-foot jump shots. That’s an incredible test of building strength, endurance and improvement in performance. In 1994, when the Houston Rockets defeated the New York Knicks in seven games, there was only one game with more than a five-point difference in the score. Replays revealed that had Hakeem not improved his shooting percentage from fifteen feet, the New York Knicks would have won instead of the Houston Rockets.

Here are some questions for you to think about: First, do you believe that Hakeem is popular with his teammates as a result of the extra efforts he made to help bring the championship to Houston? Second, do you believe Hakeem was thrilled to win the world championship ring? And third, do you understand why he got a significant raise when his contract was up for renewal?

It is true. You can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want. Hakeem helped his team mates, the owners and the fans gain that championship. He won big-time because he, too, was part of the championship team and as a matter of fact, was named the most valuable player for his tremendous efforts.

The fastest way to reach the mountain peaks of life is to forget about self and help other people reach greater heights.

See you at the top.


most said...

This is a masterpiece. There is no gainsaying about this. The more you help people, the more you move up. Many people think you can get up by running other people down. Well, you might be able to get to some extent, but never to the very top

To get to the very top, you must help others get to the top

Well said sir!

Anonymous said...

Helping others succeed is the path to organizational success as well as our personal success. You will also find it to be very rewarding when measured against all the criteria for success. In no time in our history is our business community in more desperate need of expert coaches. Try it and you might find yourself exceeding your own expectations.

bridget said...

good post papa, sure yu know quite alot about helping others, dats wat yu hav been 2me for about 7years now, i cant say tank yu enuf, yuve been a great help in helpin me get 2graeter heights.
like d saying about climbing the ladder to d top, its never done alone.tanx again.

mba said...

Well done Pst. Tea (I'm sure many don't know you by that).
It takes depth to understand the truth in helping others.
Don't help others expecting to be helped by them in turn. You may be disappointed! The hiker didn't even know he was helping himself.
Help others out of love! And surely help will come for you in your own times of need 'somehow'.


Fola' said...

And good one too from Mba, we really need to do it outside of getting something in return and truly, a candle doesn't go off lighting another.

You are destined for the top of the topmost top! See you there!!